During an Italian lesson I was having with a Danish lady some years ago, I happened to complain about how cold these Danes are, a perception I share with most of the 'warm-blooded' foreigners living here.
To support my thesis I gave the example of me standing at the bus stop, waiting for the bus to come for looong minutes, with 3-4 more people around me saying... nothing at all! Nobody would say anything, not even about the weather; nobody would talk about any recent news or complain about a bus that is late (well, that doesn't even happen often here).
I admitted I had stopped trying to start any conversation, because it was always one-sided, and I was fed up with that. Then she told me: "That was wrong, you shouldn't have stopped. We Danes have this problem, we're very introverted, and you foreigners have a duty: to teach us how to be more outgoing". I had never seen the situation from that point of view, so what I'm saying is: let's help these Danes!
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thank you Cecilia ...
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Monday, 30 November 2009 10:23
Sonja Salminen
for bringing this up. We Danes are certainly introverted but some of us enjoy learning new ways from more extrovert cultures. And it so happens that I work in a place where several of the Danes pretend not to be introvert at all. They will talk endlessly whereever you meet them. Ah yes, not all stereotypes fit - but most are excellent to start the understanding of other people.
for sure I do belong to the introvert Danes. I am sorry for that - but I try to learn...
This reminds of a contrasting incident that happened a few years ago when an old Danish woman (in her 70s) tried to initiate a conversation with me while we were waiting for the bus. Very politely I replied, "Sorry I dont understand Danish". That sentence, for me, meant the end of the conversation. "Well", she replied, "So I can speak in English". And we had a small chat :-).
Undubbed Hollywood movies, and scores of English programmes on all the Danish TV channels have definitely made a difference!
for sure I do belong to the introvert Danes. I am sorry for that - but I try to learn...
;-) Sonja
Undubbed Hollywood movies, and scores of English programmes on all the Danish TV channels have definitely made a difference!